Spotting the High Steady Style in conversations. The High Steady style has these behavioral characteristics:
- Likes security and steadiness
- Is good at creating the pace or process for self and others
- Likes to create short-term plans
- Prefers having clear directions and guidelines for work and activities
- Wants to know how things will be done step-by-step
- Is good at listening and is able to calm others
- Masks own emotions (other styles may find High Steadies hard to read emotionally)
- Has great patience and will stick it out through difficult times
- Needs own space
- Does not like lack of closure or inability to complete a task
- Fears loss of stability and conflict
- Gets overwhelmed with fast change, needs time to adjust to change
- Reduces stress by having alone downtime like yard work or a hot bath
- Needs to learn self-confidence
- Is a methodical decision maker
Someone with a High Steady style is drawn to:
- Family activities
- Cozy, homey spaces
- Proven, tested assurances
When speaking with a High Steady-style person, frame your ideas this way:
- "Let's take a few days and think this over before we make a decision."
- "We have a solid reputation for service and reliability."
- "Would you help me with . . . ?"
- "I promise I will . . ."
- "Take your time so you feel comfortable . . ."
- "We can make this happen on our own time schedule . . ."
Who do you know who prefers a High Steady Communication Style?
How can you apply these ideas to connect with them?
Each person has a preference that includes looking out of one, two, or three of these communication styles windows. One or two styles tend to be used less than the others. The style we use less is the one that we likely have the most trouble with when we interact with people who choose that style as their preference.